Spending Quality Time With Our Children
Posted by PeteE on Oct 9, 2013
Our world is more complex than ever before. Events that will shape the future of not only our lives but of our children’s lives seem to be flying past us at break-neck speeds. We as a society have been bombarded by the negative cadence of such events by the media and others within our community who may be in a state of panic or stress.
Why spending quality time with our children is so important
As adults it has become much more difficult to reconcile bad behavior and poor ethics as they appear to be rewarded time and again. Even more serious is the negative effects these events have on our children. There has never been a greater need than now to spend quality time with our kids. Our children are being subjected to upside down values and double- talk on a daily basis. If we as adults are not willing or able to offer a counter-balance and voice of reason to what our children are exposed to then who will?
Economic times have forced most households to rely on more than one wage earner just to make ends meat, raising the added challenge of physically being able to spend quality time with their kids. For some, down time translates into rest and recharging of the internal batteries. So what’s a parent to do?
Spend Quality Time With Family
Surprisingly even small amounts of time spent giving unconditional devoted attention to our kids can make a huge difference in their lives. Watching television or a movie with your kids is NOT quality time. Showing an interest in THEIR interests, listening attentively to what THEY have to say and acknowledging THEIR efforts is time much better spent.
Quality time is more than just listening. Quality time should also include a means for which life lessons can be shared in an open and non-judgmental way. Stories are a great way to get the message across, while allowing the child to come to the conclusion of the moral on their own. After all, who hasn’t heard the story of the Hare and the Tortoise or other such Aesop fables?
Spending quality time with your children is more than just watching t.v. or a movie together
Take a moment to turn off the television, video games and other such distractions and pickup a short story to read to your child. Let them share their results and conclusions with you. Remember to not pass judgment on their findings, but do encourage an open dialog.
Group activities like board game night, family play acting or even better, group music making all help to strengthen the family bonds. A family rhythm jam can be lots of fun. If you don’t have professional grade instruments, make percussion instruments out of things found around your home. When creating your jam, have each family member come up with a rhythmical idea leaving lots of space for other family members to fill in the holes. Try to layer each rhythmical idea on top of the next to form your musical creation. You might want to have a recording device handy as some of your songs creations may actually turn out pretty cool and you will want to save the work of art for others to enjoy later.
Keep in mind these activities don’t have to take up the whole evening. As little as 30 minutes per night will add greatly to the grounding of your child.
Think of spending quality time with your children as a long term investment
The investment of quality time now, will return huge dividends with the relationship of your child in the future and will also help to anchor and ground your child for the situations they may encounter.
One World Rhythm
p.s. If you do come up with an awesome music jam, send us a copy so we can put it up for others to enjoy.